Relationship Advice: How to Keep the Spark Alive

You know that feeling when you’re in a new relationship and everything is exciting? It doesn’t matter how busy your day was or how tired you are – when you get together with your partner all the negative energy seems to dissolve and you find yourself with a big smile on your face.


Even if you have many memories of that feeling, when you’re in a long-term relationship, it might be difficult to keep the spark alive. This is a human issue, it’s not one that’s unique to you. The good news is, you can fix it. In this writing, we’ll briefly explore some great ideas for all couples looking to be more adventurous, and add more fire to their love life. 

The Element of Surprise 

Gestures like buying romantic Valentine’s Day flowers can go a long way, but it’s even better if you do it when there’s no special occasion. Surprise each other with an unexpected voice note or a message. Perhaps have a gift delivered to the workplace of your significant other Spoil your partner with hand-picked Valentine’s gifts for men.


Why not put something special in her handbag, or a love note in his lunchbox? Take their car to the carwash or fill it up with gas. No matter how busy you are, a short text (even if it’s only an emoji) can show you’re thinking of them. When these things come unsolicited, the pleasant surprise can reignite those old feelings. And who knows your partner better than you?

You know precisely what they like, what they don’t like, and how to give it to them. Also, you know their schedule, and whether or not one surprise might be more appropriate than another. Keep in mind, not all surprises are good surprises, even if you mean well. Be sure to surprise them with something you know they’d like, and at the right time. 

Kidnap Your Partner

No, we don’t mean “tie them up and duct tape their mouth, then dump them in the trunk of your car” kind of kidnapping. If you have a busy work and social schedule, take some time off and take your partner to a romantic picnic. Just keep in mind: if you’re doing the kidnapping, you’re leading the adventure. So have an “end game”, as it were; and again, respect schedules if there are any.

Who Dares, Wins

Surprise your partner by doing something new! Book tickets for a sporting event, a concert, a play, or a couples massage. You can be really creative with this! Do something that will show your partner you love them enough to share their interest. There are endless possibilities if you know your partner well. Just keep in mind that the gesture needs to be authentic.

Take a Journey into the Past

Listen to your partner – do they sometimes speak about a book they read that impacted their life, or maybe an outing they enjoyed as a child, such as going for an ice cream or rollerblading? Browse the internet and see if you can find a spot that could almost replicate that experience for them and make a date of it!

Our Kitchen Rules

There are many benefits of cooking together as a couple. Not only that you’ll try and learn something new, but you’ll also build teamwork in your relationship and make some great memories. So, take some time to cook together. Find an interesting new recipe and try it out for the first time as a couple. Play some of your favorite songs, pour yourselves a glass of wine, and change your everyday cooking chore into a fun social event. 

Celebrate Each Other’s Success

Be proud of your partner, but don’t just show it; say it too. Don’t just be proud of the big accomplishments in their lives; remember about the everyday ones as well. No matter how small it may seem to you, it might just be something big for them.

Be Silly Together

Try something out of your comfort zones. Pick a silly outfit for each other and go out like that. See who can keep the best poker face throughout the outing. Take part in an unconventionally-themed event. But remember to laugh with each other and not at each other!

Don’t Be Afraid or Ashamed to Show it

It’s easy to show love and affection privately, but try to do it in front of others. No, you don’t have to look like two love-struck teenagers that keep publicly groping each other. Go old school: hold hands, give each other a hug at gatherings, just learn to be comfortable with showing affection at any time or any place. Sometimes it’s the simple things in life that make the big difference in love!

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